An Invaluable Soul

We wanted to share with you our sweet babe. Eleven weeks old and so perfectly human. 

When the tears flow and my heart hurts, I look at this picture and see that the impact of our baby's life will last so much longer than 11 weeks. This picture shows an unmistakeable humanity that needs to be acknowledged, especially in the world we live in. 

Through miscarriage I have learnt that there is so much more to motherhood than raising children, wiping little bums, and kissing boo-boos. We give our hearts to our children, and while we may not get the chance to hold all of our babies, we've been given the gift to create their souls. 

“The most important person on earth is a mother. She cannot claim the honor of having built Notre Dame Cathedral. She need not. She has built something more magnificent than any cathedral– a dwelling for an immortal soul, the tiny perfection of her baby’s body . . . The angels have not been blessed with such a grace. They cannot share in God’s creative miracle to bring new saints to Heaven. Only a human mother can. Mothers are closer to God the Creator than any other creature; God joins forces with mothers in performing this act of creation . . . What on God’s good earth is more glorious than this; to be a mother?”

— Joszef Cardinal Mindszenty

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"I'll Show Them."

It happens all the time. We have a falling out with someone and leave with the attitude, “Well, I’ll show them.” Someone doesn’t show us kindness or respect, so we decide that we’re not going to show them any either. We give them the cold shoulder like we’re trying to teach them a lesson, as if it’s our job to teach them a lesson.

I’ve tried this approach many times, and, unsurprisingly, I’m never satisfied with the results. It's an "eye for an eye" mentality that is so detrimental to not only ourselves, but those around us as well. "Oh? You're going to be like that? Well I’ll show you." And you know what? It never leaves me empowered or with any sense of entitlement. It leaves me feeling empty inside.

I’ve come to realize that when my Judgement Day rolls around, all excuses go out the window, and the brutal truth will come out. I will not be able to say, “Well, God, they did this and this and this to me,” because in that moment God will not care what anyone else did. God will look me straight in the eye and say,

“But what did you do to fix it?”

Uhhhh...the brutal truth? I did nothing...

..until now.

So I’ve decided to add on to “I’ll show them.”

I will show them. But I will show them kindness. I will show them love. I will show them respect.

I’ll teach them a lesson, but it will be a different kind of lesson. It will be a lesson that will help the both of us get to Heaven.

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Women's March: An Eye for An Eye

Disclaimer: In this post I'm choosing to put all personal beliefs aside. I'm strictly talking about the content seen in the march itself, and nothing else. And no, this does not pertain to all women who were present, just the vulgar ones.

I've seen many photos from this Women's March, and I can't help but feel so much sadness from what many women claimed to be proud to represent.

Pictures of the middle finger flashing on cardboard in the midst of the crowd, signs containing curse words spewed around as if this is the loving language that will make our world a better place, "Don't Worry, We Still Hate You, Walker" (yes, an actual sign from those proclaiming "love"), inappropriate and vulgar use of male and female body parts plastered on signs in clear view to the eyes of the children standing right beside them. I could go on, but I'm already feeling sick.

These signs are mean, vulgar, and crude.

Now a real quick question. If I'm correct, wasn't one of the reasons that this Women's March started is because Donald Trump is mean, vulgar, and crude???

You all are protesting by using the exact same tactics as the man that you are protesting about. Think about that for a second...does that really make any sense?

This was far from a "Women's" March based solely on the fact that the majority of what I saw was hate. Women are not full of hate. Women are intrinsically filled with love, it's in our nature. But not yesterday. Yesterday many were fueled by hate, revenge, and pure disdain.

You all are fighting because you demand respect, but by the looks of it, many of you don't even know how to show respect any better than Donald Trump himself.

An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. And honestly, based on yesterday, I believe our world is just that- absolutely blind.

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The Transgender Agenda Vs. Women

More and more everyday I see men putting on heels, slapping on some makeup, and calling themselves a woman. And every time I see it, my heart sinks. Are these really the qualifying factors of a woman? Am I nothing more than the makeup I wear, the dresses I put on, and the long hair on my head? Today it is as simple as putting on some girly clothes, decorating your face with makeup, and there you have it, you've turned a man into a woman.

This is exactly what the Transgender Agenda is instilling into our society. They want us to believe that a woman is nothing special, that she does nothing that a man can't do, and it boggles my mind how more women are not outraged by this. Isn't that what we've been trying to tell the world for so many years? That us women can do MORE?

Well I will tell you right now, I am MORE than this.

I am a woman. By God's amazing grace I have the ability to create life in my body and let it grow for 9 months. I have the organs to provide all that is needed for growing a baby. I can give birth to human life through a process I know men could never even dream of handling. I can nurture a baby and be its sole nourishment for months and months on end.

A man cannot do what I do. He will never be able to carry a baby with his God-given organs. He will never be able to provide nourishment unless he buys it from a store first. He can put on a dress and makeup all he wants, but it will never give him the power to do what God has allowed women to do.

I will never let the beauty of a woman be so beaten down that all it comes down to is a costume and make up. Stand up for women, and show the world that you are more. The Transgender Agenda is making a mockery of womanhood, and I will fight until the day I die to preserve the beauty and dignity of woman all around the world.

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We Should Want Heaven for the World

Today I wanted to tell you about St. Maria Goretti, a young martyr from Italy in 1902. When Maria was 11 years old, her 18-year-old neighbor, Alessandro, attempted to rape her. She screamed and said, "No! It is a sin! God does not want it!" and went on to say that she would rather die than submit. When Alessandro heard these words, he went on to stab her 14 times.

Maria was found laying on her kitchen floor, and was rushed to the hospital. Through almost 20 hours of excruciating surgical procedures with no anesthesia, the effort was hopeless. The stab wounds were too awful to heal. In Maria's last moments of life, a priest had asked her if she forgave her attacker Alessandro, and her last words were, "I forgive Alessandro Serenelli...and I want him with me in Heaven forever."

Wow. What beauty.

Many of us want Heaven for ourselves, for our families, friends, and loved ones, but how many times have we said that we want Heaven for our enemies? It is a hard thing to do, no doubt, but it is a beautiful and holy thing.

Maria Goretti not only forgave her killer, but she wanted a beautiful eternity for him as well. She wanted the absolute best for him, and nothing less. And it is even more incredible that this was only about 24 hours after he had stabbed her while she sat in excruciating pain.

So let us remember that we should want Heaven for not only those we love, but also for those that are hard to love. We should want it for all those that don't know God. We should want it for all those that claim they do not want Heaven. We should want it for those who have wronged us. We should want it for the angry, the sad, and for those who hurt. We should want it for the murderers, thieves, and the imprisoned. 

We should want Heaven for the world. 

               Below is a picture of Alessandro Serenelli, a changed man, praying to St. Maria Goretti. 

                             He repented while in prison, and lived a holy life until the day he died. 

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External and Internal Perfection

We live in a world where perfection is of utmost importance. We have to have the perfect job, perfect car, perfect house, perfect cookie-cutter life. When we put this all together, we create our external perfection.

We all strive for this external perfection in one way or another. It's human nature to want to seem "put together," like we've got life all figured out. But in reality I think we can all agree that we probably put more effort than we should into making our lives seem perfect to those around us.

Perhaps we should wonder, though, where is this external perfection going to get us in the end? Where is all of it going to go once we leave this earth? I'll tell you plain and simple, it's going to stay right where you left it. The second you take your last breath, all of your material objects will become obsolete. They will mean nothing to you anymore, and they will do nothing for you. Your fate will not be determined by your car, your house, or your "stuff." Instead, it will be determined by something much more important, something much more crucial to your well-being. Your internal perfection.

Kindness, love, generosity, charity. These are the qualities that will ultimately determine our eternal life. We are all going to be standing at those pearly gates one day and we will be asked, "But how kind were you? How much love did you give? Did you give until you could give no more?" And we will have to answer each and every question with brutal honesty.

We will not be able to say, "But God, look what I have achieved. Look at my house, look at my car, look at my bank account." Our external perfection means nothing to God unless we have used it to benefit someone else. Did you use your house as a shelter for others? Did you use your car to complete good deeds? Was your bank account used to give to charity? If not, then your external perfection has gotten the best of you.

So let us strive for internal perfection, not external perfection. Let us strive for perfection in our hearts, not perfection in our houses. Let us strive for perfect kindness, not perfect paychecks.

In the words of St. Francis of Assisi, "Remember that when you leave this earth you can take nothing that you have received- only what you have given."

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Submission and Love in Marriage

Submission is such a feared word among both men and women today. It is viewed as a sign of weakness, a sign that "you can't hold your own." However, to be able to submit to another person is a quality that takes so much strength and fortitude, it is hardly a sign of weakness. 

Submission plays a big part in marriage as I have learned in the past few months. I remember when the priest quoted Colossians 3:18 during his sermon at our wedding. Those dreaded words came out of his mouth echoing through the church:

"Wives, be subject to your husbands." 

I can just imagine what was going through the minds of those sitting in the pews who are not so religious, and I'm sure it went something like this:

Woman: "Are you kidding me?! She should not have to subject to him! She is not his property. How dare they say that."

Man: "Yeah man! What I say goes. This guy knows what he's talking about! I'm going to use this line next time."

But what they failed to hear is the next verse which is of utmost importance.

"Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter towards them."

Women, do not think you have the short end of the stick here. You may be thinking, "Why do I have to break down and submit to him, and all he has to do is "love" me?" But I think we all know that loving someone, especially when you don't particularly feel like loving them, is hard work. 

These men are not getting off easy by any means. God does not say to them, "Love your wives only when they're making you happy." No, it simply says to love. He must love you when you're being difficult, he must love you when you're moody, he must love you when you're mad. And I give men props for this, because I know how I can be, and I know how other women can be, and let's just say that we can be quite scary sometimes. 

Yes, girls, the verse does still say to submit to your husbands. Allow him to be the head of the household, let him make the final decisions on what is best for the family. And if you love him as you should, your submission will not seem so difficult. But remember, men, while you are making these decisions, you must do it with supreme love for your wife. If you love her with your whole heart, you will make decisions with her in mind. 

Submission and love go hand in hand, for there cannot be one without the other. It takes both to make a couple grow together through life's trials and tribulations. 

Marriage is no picnic, my friends, but with genuine effort and love from one another, it can turn into something truly beautiful. 

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