The Best Jewelry is Modesty

"Dress how you want other women to dress around your husband."
~Kim Doebler

Modesty. That crazy, forbidden word. 

The use of the word has significantly depleted since the 1800s, and nowadays it is synonymous with prude, goody-good, potato sack. Little did you know the word prude actually comes from the French word prou, meaning "good and worthy."

Now even though I'm not dressing to find a husband anymore, modesty will continue be a goal of mine until the day that I die. I still want others to see me for what my mind can do, not for what my body can do. I want to dress in a way so that other men to know how much I love and respect my husband, and I would never want to give another man the opportunity to look at me like I'm a piece of meat.

A couple of months ago I vowed to dress in a way that shows my feminine qualities while still holding true to my views on modesty. For me, pants and shorts just don't fit into these categories anymore. Pants these days are so skin tight that they fit more like spandex than they do pants, shorts are so short that you might as well not be wearing anything at all, and leggings, while they "cover" your legs, are nothing more than an extra layer of skin suctioned to your body.

The only thing that makes me feel like a woman anymore are skirts and dresses that at least come down to my knees or lower. Knee length is perfect because I can walk around and not have to continuously pull down my skirt to make sure nothing is showing. I can pick something off the ground and not worry if my skirt is going to fly up. And last but not least, skirts just make me feel pretty, and I absolutely love that feeling.

It's human nature to want to be respected by others, but the only way a woman can expect to be respected by a man is by respecting herself first. So many women think that they should be able to wear anything they want and still receive the respect that they somehow believe they are entitled to. Respect is earned. Let a man see you for the mind you have, and give him the opportunity to respect your heart and soul first. I love that when I met my husband, he respected me for my mind and soul, not for the body that I have.

You do not have to reveal your body to the public to make a statement of your confidence. Instead, reveal your dignity to the world to show the confidence that you truly have. Prove to the world (and to yourself) that you can attract a man's attention by the virtues that you possess and the love that you hold in your heart. You are more than the body that you have, so let a man's first impression of you be the mystique of your heart and soul. Let him come back wanting to know more of your mind, more of what's in your heart, more of the love that you hold. 

Now I'm not saying dress in a potato sack. There is nothing wrong with dressing to impress or dressing with a figure. But dress with a dignity that leaves a man wondering what else you have to give. 

Let his eyes be attracted to your soul, and he will respect you with the love that you truly deserve.